What does it look like to have full confidence in yourself, your body and your baby? How does this look in the birth setting?
This week we’re speaking with Talise Homebirth Queen, who lives up to her name in every way. She gave birth to all 6 of her babies at home, without pain or fear. She’s given birth to twins, she’s gone unassisted, and she’s written a book about it: Home is Where the Birth is
Talise brings so much insight and wisdom to today’s conversation, I can’t wait to get started.
Talise was raised in a homebirth family- she was a breech c-section, but her mother did more research and realized that it wasn’t necessary to have a c-section just because it was a breech baby.
Keep your children and yourself away from the false narrative that birth MUST be painful
“You put in what you get out” when it comes to birth and preparation- She halfway prepared for her first birth, because she didn’t fully understand that you “should” prepare.
There was lots of screaming, cussing, and it was very dramatic. She realized that she wanted to have a different experience.
With her second birth, her midwife helped her heal from her first birth— this is highly important, learning to heal from previous birth traumas.
With the second birth, she exercised more and read more affirmations. The birth went much smoother.
With her third birth (twin birth), she did hypnobirthing and visualizations every day.
She changed her wording
Pain —> Pressure
Contractions —> Waves
She exercised daily, visualized daily, ate well and focused on mental preparation.
Talise encourages women to use their voices to help their babies come down (low tones)
She only had a doula for this birth (not a midwife)
Her doula came in and Talise had her leg up. Her doula said “Stop! That’s the baby’s booty!”
Baby was born, an hour later, she realized she was still pushing. And suddenly another baby booty came out with two little “chicken legs”
Talise always reminds women how important it is to really interview and meet with your doula and midwives and find someone you’re comfortable with. They hoped to have a specific midwife, but she wasn’t going to be available because her own daughter was going to be giving birth.
They decided to have an unassisted birth.
All of her children were there until the very end— she gave a massive roar and all of the kids left!
Once again with this birth, she was incredibly consistent with preparation.
For her next birth, she had another unassisted birth again.
Talise prepared the MOST for her postpartum to make it easier for everyone.
She woke up her husband- he filled the pool
She was talking and laughing until her baby was born.
Talise said her baby’s name just came to her.
Isn’t Talise such an encouragement? Her energy and confidence just radiate, and they’ve got me feeling like a homebirth queen, too. As we head into this week’s episode roundup, here are a few topics that came to mind for me.
- What a blessing that Talise’s mom took the initiative to learn and research about birth. Even though she had a c-section, she raised her daughter to know that she could give birth to her babies safely, vaginally and at home. I’m so impressed by that, and it’s what I wish for the upcoming generation.
- Maybe my favorite quote and concept, Talise said when it comes to birth, “You put in what you get out.” Doing minimal preparation and just leaving it up to chance may leave you feeling out of control and lost during labor. But when you take the time to prepare, and Talise is such a great example of this, beautiful things can happen.
- Finally, with that preparation… comes confidence. The ability to know your body, to trust yourself and to take charge of your own experience. Talise was comfortable giving birth unassisted, understanding the risks and benefits and choosing what was best for her family. And that’s what I ask of everyone— to make informed decisions for their own family. What an incredible woman and an incredible story. Be sure to check out all that Talise has to offer at her website, and go buy that book! Alright my friends. Before you hop off, would you take a screenshot of this episode and share it on your instagram stories? Tag happyhomebirthpodcast and talisethehomebirthqueen and let us know what takeaway or strength you drew from this episode! Okay my friends, that’s all I’ve got for you today. I’ll see you back here next week.