First births are always long and hard. Period. Right? Or….
This week we’re speaking with Kelsea, a precious mama of two, who surprised herself and her birth team with her first labor. We’ll dig into both of her beautiful experiences.
- When Kelsea broke the news that she was having a homebirth to her OB, her OB said, “we always see unsuccessful homebirth attempts.” Well, duh, doctor. You certainly don’t see the successful ones… they’re…. Not at the hospital. I just want to use this as a reminder to you. If you’re receiving dual care, your OB likely doesn’t have any experience with successful homebirths. He or she likely has no idea how many home births are happening successfully in their very own city all the time. So be sure to take their perspective with a grain, of salt.
- Kelsea’s explanation of Fetal Ejection Reflex with both of her births was just so perfect. She recollects to how her body just forcefully pushed on it’s own. She couldn’t stop the pushing. Instead, she could focus on concentrating and on her breathing. Remember this. Your body knows how to push. It’ll let you know when it’s time to do that. You can focus on the breathing and let those amazingly powerful muscles do their thing.
- And finally, remember that you may need to ask for help postpartum. There’s absolutely zero shame in the struggle. Whether it’s your first or fifth child, the transition and addition of a new member to the family, along with the recalibration of your hormones, may lead to some feelings of stress or depression. Please reach out. Share this with your family, share it with your midwife- make sure that you’re getting the love and care that you need.